Girls feel good and secure when they are around confident, cool man. Whenever you exhibit confidence and feel great about yourself, you create an ambiance around you. Girls are impressed with that and are unconsciously drawn close to you.
It is easier said than done. How would you build confidence? The first step to attain any goal is to have clear mental picture of that goal. Close your eyes and imagine the character of cool confident guy you want to be. How does he walk? How does he talk to girl? How does he impress a girl? How would he respond to or cope with risk and danger? Go through every aspect of his character. Practice this visualization everyday for at least 10 minutes. Don’t be hurry through this stage. Without a very vivid picture of who you want to become, you’ll never become him. If you still can’t imagine your goal character, watch some movies of Indiana Jones, James Bond etc. These are typical examples of cool confident guys you should observe and adopt your own version.
The next step is to “act as if”. Act as if you are that cool strong guy. Stand as if you had 100 times more confidence. Get your chin up and your shoulders back. Imagine that you are smart and attractive. You have nothing to be afraid of. Imagine you are already impressed by girls in class. How does it feel? After practicing it for a while you’ll notice that it is becoming part of your own personality. By “acting as if” you’ll start to actually become the guy you want to be.
The next step is to take active control of your thinking. This means that you should no longer let negative thoughts rule in your mind. The way you feel is always reflected by what your thoughts are focusing on. You are shaped by your thoughts. Always remember that “mind over matters”. When you’re focused on the positive thoughts, you’re able to stay confident and happy. If you’re always telling yourself, “She wasn’t Impressed with me because I’m broke/not handsome/whatever,” you are hurting your self-esteem, and your self-confident will suffer. Never let your undisciplined thoughts take control and make you crazy. Don’t let your thoughts go against you and betray your healthy self-esteem.
Another empowering exercise is to take active control of your life. You must be captain of your soul, captain of your life. Sets clear goals for your life. What are your dreams: your carrier, your purpose in life etc? Then pursue for it. Girls are not your destiny, they are just part of your destiny. Whenever you are in conversations with women, demonstrate your passion and direction for life that you are heading towards. A guy with definitive purpose is usually impressed by girls.
Remember there will be days when your mood is not good enough and confidence is low. In that case below are some quick confidence booster tips.
1) Do, play or talk about something you are skillful at. We feel confident in area where we are competent at. Talking about it even for a while can radiate that confidence to other area of your life.
2) Recall your sweet victorious memories – a goal you kicked in school football field or whatever, it does help. It is also a good idea to take inventory of your good experiences. That will help you recall faster.
3) Read some motivational books that would lift your spirit.
When your inner game is solid and you have confidence, it would be a lot easier to impress a girl and make her fall in love with you.
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